Gender representation and culture

   

Around a work meeting yesterday, the person I was with came up with this:
Native American recognise as many as 5 different genders
and one of the monotheisms recognises 6. 

I had no idea, and I am definitively not surprised about the Native American belief system; I am definitively more about the monotheism.
In this particular case, I could only find a factual description of those 6 types of individuals, nothing on how they were socially considered.
At least, there is a recognition of potential differences.

Native American, before Europeans arrived on their land, had
no set roles for men and women.

They considered: Female, Two Spirit female, Two Spirit male, Male and Transgendered.

The Two Spirit people were highly revered as
being able to understand the world with both genders eyes was considered as a gift from 'The Creator'. 

There was no difference in the tasks Female or Male had to do in the group. 

Their clothes were very similar, and

whatever they were capable of bringing to their community was considered as useful: This is the liberating idea.
How many genders are recognised in your own culture and religion ?
What are the representation of masculinity and femininity in your world ?
Where are you with this representation ?
Cultural and religious gender representation does assign social roles to one individual who might not always fit in.

I have not looked very deep into thist, though I felt it was an interesting conception to share with you, in term of accepting the other for who they are. 

This goes way further than gender and sexuality.

Looking at someone for who they deeply are simply means you also accept yourself for who you are and let go of non useful judgement.

Pia Granjon Lecerf

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Let's expand discussion, views and reflection.

Time ?

Hi all !

One experience to share with you today.

Just before a coaching this morning, I thought that I ( and the client) would benefit if I did a meditation. 

I felt a bit annoyed as I did not have much time for it.

I still decided to do it, thinking that a few minutes would be better than nothing.

I sat down and began. My watch told me I had about 7 mn.

I could be with my breathing very easily. 

I opened my eyes after what I felt had been 2 or 3 mn. Just to see that 10 mn had past.

That’s our subjective sense of time:

You may wonder if you have time;

You lmau say yes to it ! 

As you always have more time that what you think.

And time may offer you some extras ;o)

Some of you know my very personal sense of time:

First, time reference has very few meaning for me  (I do not feel / know when it is morning, afternoon … do not try to understand, you may end frustrated ;) 

even though, like many of us, my brain works like a very precise alarm clock when I need it to 

+ I believe (as I experienced it) that there are ‘moments’ when past, present and future naturally join to create a space with no time references existing.

Time is a fascinating trick !

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Differences . . .

What do our body functions detect ?

What does our soul, our reasoning, our emotions detect ?

Differences.

Differences from other ways to function:

What / who am I ? I am different. I do not fit in. 

This is painful.

If there were no comparison, no judgment, no thought-boxes, there were no painful differences

Differences from what was before :

I had . . . / I was . . . and now; I do not have, I am not anymore.

This applies when there is a sense of loss.

Some attitudes, some thoughts, some angles do help.

Getting rid of the DENIAL element which leads to STOP. FREEZE.

At everyone’s time and pace as denial is a self-protection construction.

If you want to feel better,

Face it. 

Act – Get organized.

Many examples pop in my head that may be resumed in:

Change of daily activity

Like:

Retirement from work. 

Being made redundant

Coming from work to full time parenting

Coming from little kids to ‘sudden’ (for you) teenagers

The message, from the society, from the family cell … is:

Thanks ! (when there is ) we don’t need you anymore !

OUCH ! That hurt

And you know what ?

You can make something out of it, without hurting yourself or others.

Take some time for yourself – Yes, I know, that is a point where I usually get the answer :

- But I do not have time !

Good! You do not have time. 

Or you do not make time.

I know, you hate me for this one.

Doesn’t matter. I’ll keep repeating. As that’s the key to a big door to new possibilities

So, make time for yourself and get organised. 

Before the big change hits you.

Let’s not forget that differences may be highly positive as well

Even in the positive felt change, there is an in between zone that might contain elements of anxiety. That is positive stress.

The – that hurt you now are an open window to see what can be changed to reach a more congruent situation.

It is up to you

Make yourself a lovely day !

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Secularism, synonym of . . .

Secularity day today, December,9.

Secularism or logical follow up of our revolution ; basic legal foundation that still manages our French society.

What synonym for secularism ? 

Synonymous with rejection of the religion ?
Synonymous with ‘systematical negative criticism ?
Synonym with intolerance ?
No objective thinking ?
Synonymous with peremptory judgment ?

How about switching angle ?

Secularism synonym with …

Respecting and accepting the beliefs of others – which may not mean agreeing with them for yourself

Respecting the religious beliefs of others or beliefs in Humanity, in Love

Synonym that we can be together and different

This is this last one that I personally chose.

Have a fabgical day !

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your body, mind & soul

London poppies exhibition being taken off

A thought I feel like sharing with you this morning.

How do you wake up your body, mind and soul in the morning ?

Oh yeah, I know. Coffee / Tea for most of us Sapiens Sapiens, right ? 

Coffee / Tea  are brilliant for the mind ! A good kick in !

Your body and your soul need to wake up in the best condition too !

Recipe ? None, sorry ! As usual !

Joking on this one !

I believe there is a good one.

Should take you what, 10 to 20 mn ? Or less if you are just starting.

Take it easy.

I am talking about a few stretching / yoga mouvements.

And a meditation.

This is a winning recipe. 

I can assure you.

And I will never repeat that enough. 

You do not need to be a yogi to meditate.

You just need to offer yourself a natural pace of being for a short yet important time.

A the beginning, just follow your breath and feel it going through your body, in and out.

Wishing you a fabgical day !

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Putting things into perspective before jumping ? !

Public park, Rio de Janeiro

Want to pull an alarm bell this morning.

About these ‘philosophical’ phrases that can now be found everywhere

Which lead us to adopt a particular attitude.

Inviting us to be like this or like that .

One at random :

" Always do what you are afraid to do"

I realize how important it is to always, always keep in mind:

What can be an interesting journey for one is not necessarily for the other.

We each have our own life stories that affect our daily lives.

None are alike. Each has its own reasons to be with balances in place.

Changing, but why not ! Change leads to something new !

A person in doubt, could think :

"Why not! This is for me ! "

The result could be excellent. . . or not.

A new orientation will be more real and effective if taken into account based on the ecology of the person :

The organization of its environment: choices / values / family context, social context . . .

Its unique universe has to be considered

So, these sentences are very beautiful and inspiring , yes.

However, it may be good to put your thoughts in perspective before jumping?!

Wishing you a wonderful day !

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Accepting the beauty in you ? !

Glacier, Patagonia

Can you recognize the beauty and the power in you ?

What is stopping you ?

Or

Who is stopping you ?

What are your fears ?

Maybe is it the right time to open yourself to that

AND

Stay in peace with

yourself

and

the loved ones who were there when you were a child

Have a wonderful day !

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Thanksgiving

This is Thanksgiving for all Americans around the world.

A drop of history: Thanksgiving is a Christian celebration, originally in the USA and Canada; it is about giving thanks for the blessings of the harvest and of the preceding year.

It is now a national holiday;

I LOVE the idea of giving ourselves time for recognizing and celebrating the beauties we have in our lives.

Breaking from personal or more largely international bad news is beneficial from time to time;

Life can be difficult, even particularly tough sometimes. This is exactly when we need to remember what is holding us, what helps us hang in there until life becomes easier again;

And if all is perfect at the moment, why not magnifying it ? !

Our strengths are there in us and in our life to help us cope with what is uneasy or painful.

We need to know what our strengths are.

And I like the idea of saying thank you to them, saying thank you to ourselves; as we are the main actors of our life.

As I was saying to a friend today, it is liberating to say thank you; it creates a powerful link between people and within us; it is a spiritual process, a moment of peace.

What are you thankful for ?

Who / what make you feel secure ?

On my side, at this moment of my life, I am thankful for living my life to the fullest (I cannot imagine another way !)

Thankful and happy to recognize that I have been my best friend, most of the time (always room for improvement ! )

That people around me, family and friends are present and remind me regularly that I can count on them

As an exercise, you can make a list of what is annoying you at the moment, what is difficult for you and opposite, write what / who can help for this very issue.

There is always a way, always.

Take some time and be conscious of what your life counts of magical wonders !

Wishing you a fabulous WE !

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A recipe ?

A recipe ?

A lady I am working with was asking me for a recipe for the issue she is tackling in her coaching process.

There is no recipe.

There are tools.

Even though I am not working carrying a ‘suitcase full of tools’; 

I believe the best tools are those we build for each and single situation.

This person is probably now at the real starting point for her coaching: 

she begins to feel that she is personally implicated in her own solutions

She can drive her own life.

Depending on her life reality: other persons around her and facts.

It can seem frightening to face one’s own way when life is felt to be like an impenetrable jungle;

This is one of the reasons why moving on with a professional is useful: 

staying on track, feeling safe and so, daring to check on and set up different options;

I wish you a peaceful day !

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What are you certain about in your life ?

There, I was certain about my admiration !

Praia Seca, Brasil

One person was saying to me the other day:

‘Our life is full of uncertainty’

Yes it is.

Many, many unplanned events occur that affect our life.

 In the best way and sometimes in a difficult way.

What would be for you the best attitude to integrate all those uncertainties

And live your life to the full ? !

I wish you a beautiful end of the week full of exciting novelties !

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It is Spring today !

Jardim Botanico, Rio de Janeiro

It is spring today !

It was International Happiness day yesterday

How about having a free kind gesture today ?

Smiling even if you don’t really feel like it

Giving some of your time

Letting go of that moaning attitude

. . .

Being kind, without any specific reason

As giving is bonding

Without expecting anything special for respecting the other

Who, in terms will give back a lot because they’ve been respected entirely

I can hear the birds singing

That’s one daily gift !

Have a splendid day !

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The richness of the opposite

In the botanical garden, Rio De Janeiro

 BEING

Or

 DOING

?

Those two states are not antinomic

They are complementary

Complementarity  implies a balance

If the weight is too important on one side, the scale leans

Our personal scales lean

Always

For the majority of us, we lean towards

DOING

And it’s Ok !

Doing is reassuring and stops us from thinking too much

How about looking at

BEING

?

It’s within what we haven’t developed yet that we can find new options

Answers to our questions

Whether we DO or ARE

Or find ourselves in any type of questioning

Wandering where we are not used to is one efficient way to get richer

What is your certitude today ?

How about its opposite ?

Have a fantastic pursuit ! ! ! 

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