The subject is not easy, I agree on that. Still, it is indeed part of our life. Death is our final state, which concerns us often well before having to deal with ours.
What motivates me to talk about that today is the death of a few public personalities that I appreciated, but it is in reality because of the disease of a dear one.
I will certainly not, even less than usual, have a firm statement regarding this particular theme.
Simply a sequence of thoughts.
Men have always organised themselves around death. Is it not the only certainty of life, that death will occur and that what happens next is totally unknown ? The unknown is not reassuring, the unknown represents the lack of control.
We tend to built around it, witjout facing it.
From immemorial time, men have built beliefs and rituals around their death. Through religion, polytheisms and monotheisms as well as an atheistic world.
It helps, most obviously to live more in peace, to accept the unacceptable : our death, our disappearing.
It is a path of no return, there is no way back in life. At any stage of our life, our acts unfold, like a carpet.
Depending if one approached death from close or from far, for oneself or for someone else; that someone being more or less close; we have established relations with it. The way we could.
We can then, if we choose it, give a different glow to our life.
How about letting go of our fear we have of our death, the death of our dear ones which is only the mirror of ours ?
How about liberating the words ?
Talking about death does not summon it. The thought of it does not exacerbate a disease.
But rather, it allows to express the anguish.
The intensity of a pain can sometimes make us sink into a deep sadness, or madness or flirt with the idea of death.
Offering to share words allows to express what may be essential , allows to have time to do so, calmly with no feeling of urge.
It allows to move on, to grow on the path of acceptance.
Here is what we said David Servan Scheiber. Physician, doctor es Sciences, neuropsychiatrist.
"All my experience leads me to believe that for facing the disease, it is essential to question death. [...] I believe it is better to face the subject, to consider it in all its dimensions [...], so that when the time comes, it is smoother. At the point these people are, it is basically the most important issue in their life and it would be better if they don't miss it."
I had this experience not long ago with someone who I am particularly close to.
Only by offering a space for the words, saying "... how about your spirit today ? " a sentence I had been offering for several months. One day, the words flowed.
The thoughts already exist in people's mind when severely ill .
It is about recieving the moral pain, the anguish, the fear, the questions, the need to clarify certain points of their life.
The urge to express the real feelings instead of burying them that we can do sometimes for not hurting the others and because of our fear.
Again and again the fear that feezes everything.Face it and talk to it.
Then feel the relief, the lightness that follows.
With also moments of grief, pain, denial. The violence of feelings is part of life.
The more we face and recognise our feelings, the better they will find a stable place in our mind. All those emotional issues are far from being neutral, for all involved.
This note today is complex and the way to approach death is infinite and highly personal.
Why not simply begin to think about it ?
I offered you my thoughts of today.
What do you think?
What motivates me to talk about that today is the death of a few public personalities that I appreciated, but it is in reality because of the disease of a dear one.
I will certainly not, even less than usual, have a firm statement regarding this particular theme.
Simply a sequence of thoughts.
Men have always organised themselves around death. Is it not the only certainty of life, that death will occur and that what happens next is totally unknown ? The unknown is not reassuring, the unknown represents the lack of control.
We tend to built around it, witjout facing it.
From immemorial time, men have built beliefs and rituals around their death. Through religion, polytheisms and monotheisms as well as an atheistic world.
It helps, most obviously to live more in peace, to accept the unacceptable : our death, our disappearing.
It is a path of no return, there is no way back in life. At any stage of our life, our acts unfold, like a carpet.
Depending if one approached death from close or from far, for oneself or for someone else; that someone being more or less close; we have established relations with it. The way we could.
We can then, if we choose it, give a different glow to our life.
How about letting go of our fear we have of our death, the death of our dear ones which is only the mirror of ours ?
How about liberating the words ?
Talking about death does not summon it. The thought of it does not exacerbate a disease.
But rather, it allows to express the anguish.
The intensity of a pain can sometimes make us sink into a deep sadness, or madness or flirt with the idea of death.
Offering to share words allows to express what may be essential , allows to have time to do so, calmly with no feeling of urge.
It allows to move on, to grow on the path of acceptance.
Here is what we said David Servan Scheiber. Physician, doctor es Sciences, neuropsychiatrist.
"All my experience leads me to believe that for facing the disease, it is essential to question death. [...] I believe it is better to face the subject, to consider it in all its dimensions [...], so that when the time comes, it is smoother. At the point these people are, it is basically the most important issue in their life and it would be better if they don't miss it."
I had this experience not long ago with someone who I am particularly close to.
Only by offering a space for the words, saying "... how about your spirit today ? " a sentence I had been offering for several months. One day, the words flowed.
The thoughts already exist in people's mind when severely ill .
It is about recieving the moral pain, the anguish, the fear, the questions, the need to clarify certain points of their life.
The urge to express the real feelings instead of burying them that we can do sometimes for not hurting the others and because of our fear.
Again and again the fear that feezes everything.Face it and talk to it.
Then feel the relief, the lightness that follows.
With also moments of grief, pain, denial. The violence of feelings is part of life.
The more we face and recognise our feelings, the better they will find a stable place in our mind. All those emotional issues are far from being neutral, for all involved.
This note today is complex and the way to approach death is infinite and highly personal.
Why not simply begin to think about it ?
I offered you my thoughts of today.
What do you think?
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