Making a choice

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Very often the people I work with via a coaching process express a will to deal with choice making. Whether this is explicit or implicit to them.

The tendency is often to ‘require’ from oneself that these choices are obvious and quick to make. 

This is because being 'in-between '  

In between two paths or  two choices is a worrying and uncertain situation that has to lead to mourn some aspect of what we will  not chose. 

It is diving into the unknown therefore uncertainty.  

In other words: giving up mastering the situation and accepting to feel some danger !

With the nagging question which is not always clearly expressed, ' but what if I'm wrong ...?'

Well yes, you can ' go wrong ' !  Most constructive and not necessarily the easiest way is to learn ( rethink all those good - bad arguments that you had put forward before ) to understand , to get rid of some (maybe already) obsolete personal values/beliefs ?  

Restart the machine in another direction. And this may take time.

A feeling of great loneliness facing oneself ?

 Who else but yourself can make the choice, in reality ?

Yourself.

And how about the side benefits of not making a choice? 

You can call it otherwise, the concept is still the same .

If you stay in a situation of non- choice (' But that's impossible ! ' ' I cannot do it ' ' I do not see clearly ' ' I do not know ... ) there is a reason for it. 

This ' blocked ' situation brings you protection. 

It nourishes you , it justifies something of your current organization (work, family , environment ...)

 What is it ? 

We approach there yet another step in the work of understanding oneself: 

to go in search of the roots of the tree of choice that has some branches which grow further and firmly when others are shorter or twisted to maintain a balanced ecosystem.

Then do not forget your unconscious mind! 

Our so dear and caring best friend ! 

It is our reservoir of memory, wisdom, and knowledge of our self. 

It is all that we need to answer the questions we keep.

In ethno psychiatry, the unconscious mind is considered by various means. 

Some shamans for examples consider it as being our divine part. 

Whatever its name, it is considered as an extremely benevolent part of ourselves for ourselves.

We can access our unconscious mind in different ways.  

I personally communicate with mine regularly. Simply asking him to be there for me. That's one way.

" The poets who stand immediately on the other side of the border are trying to make us understand that we have lost our true wealth and that things would be better if we would reach them again "

François Roustang

(personal translation)

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