We have far more social roles than those we are using

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Shakespeare told us, the world is a stage and we are all actors

We are all actors in our own lives and we play several roles;

While maintaining our personality, we assume it in a variety of ways depending on the role played;

role at work, with friends, with our life partner, our children, etc. ... etc. ...

Most of our behaviors are learned responses and integrated roles from our childhood and have been internalised so well and for so long that we no longer know how to be otherwise http://piacoaching.blogspot.com/2011/02/lets-dust-our-values.html

Just as we should do with our values and beliefs, regularly dusting the roles we have chosen to play is very useful and allow us to perceive a situation radically differently, so new options come on stage !

When roles and role expectations (the reaction we expect other people to have) are totally stuck, then situations can not evolve and find a new solution is well harder

Ever heard of Anne Ancelin Shützenberger ?  

She is a great French psycho-sociologist who has worked, among other themes, on the roles and role expectations through psychodrama.

I discovered her during a course of psycho-sociology at the Sorbonne University and I have used psychodrama with young pre-delinquants.
The discovery of the different facets of a role we chose to hold, its effects on ourself and on others, and then allowing ourself to try a new role in the same situation. We can realise the new links that are generated.

I suggest you choose a particular situation or a specific framework.

Describe the role you hold and the behaviors that result in the scenario you choose. Cut out the story in a series of separate scenes.

Choose a scene that describe a few interaction between you and someone else

Now, imagine, create a new behaviour you choose to adopt and, similarly, describe the cascade of innovations that will follow
"If I do this / if I say it... The other will answer me this or that..."

The interesting point is not to imagine the perfect scenario, simply because it does not exist.
What is interesting in this exercise is to explore new behaviours that might be more appropriate than the previous ones that are dragged on for far too long

An example

Here in Brasil this type of approach has been developped in a few neighbourhoods.

Young offenders are working with the people they have abused one way or another.

The idea is that the actors play the role of the other party. This has the dramatic effect to make each of them consider and understand the motivations and reactions of the other. The consequences of role played.  The phrase that always comes out to this type of exercise is "But I did not know! I could not imagine!"

And the direct result is a decrease of aggression, frustration and the possibility to change behavior.

We all can decide to change our role in a situation we wish to change

Tempted ?

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