Let's dust our values !

Picture of an Ice statue I took on the Champs Elysées this winter 

The other day, I was talking with my father about the concept of dogma.

What is a dogma? It is a statement considered fundamental, unquestionable and inviolable by a competent political, philosophical or religious authority which, in some cases employs force to impose it (thank you the dictionary!)

What is a dogma useful for/to ?

Which are they?

What do we do with them ? 

The importance of always questionning them !

Rich discussion that reminded me of one of my gentle obsessions ;o) 

Our values, our beliefs.

I would define them as our personal dogmas !

Those who know me as a coach know the importance that I take to this reflection on personal values and beliefs.

We have built our values throughout our lives since birth, depending on events and / or people we encountered. They helped us go through different life obstacles to continue our path.

Careful though ! As dogmas, it is very important to question, a value. A belief may have been helpful when we were a child, or just a few years ago and it simply may lead us to prolong a situation we might want to get rid of !

We should dust our beliefs and values regularly !

An example: A young woman I met through a coaching process suffered in her marriage, she had deeply embedded one of her parents's value : when you're married, that is for your entire life

It took several sessions and long thoughts for her to consider the hypothesis that this value was probably not hers anylonger, to replace it with another one and to take further decisions which then were just natural;

Shall I suggest a simple exercise that can take a few minutes or ... a few years, depending on what you want to do with it !

Write down different values (love, respect, solidarity, freedom, isolation, curiosity, creativity, natural, altruism, etc ... etc ... etc ...) 

Identify 5, knowing precisely what meaning you put behind each word you choose;

Then, 

1 - Rank them depending on the importance they have to you, depending on your philosophy of life

2 - What place have you made for them in your daily life ?

Then, for each one, ask yourself :

Is this value mine or that of my father / mother / big brother / spouse / friend / colleague .....?

It certainly helped me in this situation, but now, to what extent should it still be part of my Top 5 ?

Shoudn't I replace it by another one that may be more useful to me ? 

Imagine a different value and see what new it might bring in your life;

What new perspective opens up to you then ?

What possibles become reality  ?

Is it was coherent with your other values ?

Drop reflexes and draw yourself more lively days !

A future that YOU choose, well supported by YOUR values!

A human life is about change, why shouldn't our values change as well ? !

Want my personal top 5 to me of the moment ? Here it is !

Respect

Family

Discovery

Sharing

Fluidity

I wish you a week full of great inspiration !

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