How to deal with our traumas ?

Beautiful and what looks like a threatening eye: all in one single creature

Here is a link to an article of the French newspaper Le Monde, written about the Italian conductor Claudio Abbado who just passed away.

http://www.lemonde.fr/disparitions/article/2014/01/20/claudio-abba

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As it is stated in the article, Mr Abbado who was suffering from a stomach cancer for several years andunderwent a surgery in 2000. 

He used to say:

“I learned new things, this interruption has been an exceptional experience 

that made me see and feel everything differently.”

When we are dangerously close to a highly traumatic event, when we are almost to the point of death, 

we will never be totally the same again.

There is a before and there is an after.

Can we still always make a positive experience of a trauma ?

I do think so.

Is it easy and systematic ?

I do not think so.

What are the keys to achieve this?

We share a few :

Moving on to the following state of mind:

- We have the painful phases:

The denial

The anger

What I call the diving phase, which may take the form of depression, sadness, melancholy

- Then the phases following the mind-switch that makes us be connected with life, again:

The acceptance, letting go

The reconstruction,

These phases are more or less important depending on your unique life history

Some of these phases can be particularly long and painful, while others are barely felt.

If you are in a situation of despair;

Be sure that you 're not alone

A professional can help you. Nothing is ever definite.

Many approaches exist and one or more of them will match your needs

I am wishing you a wonderful week !

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