One tip when settling in expatriation ?

A casa do arte, Ilha Paqueta, Rio de Janeiro

I was talking to a friend the other day . Let’s call her ms F. (not her real initial).

She has been expatriating for many years. I was sharing with her the situation of a lady I met who is struggling settling where she is.

We always have good reasons for being uncomfortable.

Expatriation or any other uneasy situation.

F. shared with me how much she had been unhappy for two years in a previous expatriation.

She has been willing to learn from the state she was in and find the strength and resources to get out of her sadness.

F. looked for the resources she needed both within herself and outside

How interesting when she told me she worked on it as if it was homework;

for me, that means she understood and accepted that the feelings she had at that moment were not helping her; she decided to put them aside and reach new ones through her ‘homework’

Homework were, as far as I remember what she said: deciding on at least one thing to achieve during her day and make the effort to connect with people around her

As she didn’t have a cultural environment she liked, she decided to set herself a goal that was congruent with what she knows she likes getting from her life.

She said that she learnt that everything had to come from her, and the attitude she would chose would change her life.

She says she is now ready for any expatriation and knows it can work for her as it all depends on her.

She got THE point.

Yes the solution always comes from us and so our attitude

Sometimes though, you simply feel unable to reach your inner resources to help yourself.

And that is ok, let’s not add judgment to that

I have heard for example

‘How comes I cannot feel better ? I thought I was stronger than that ?’

F.’s testomony tells us that in an uncomfortable situation, even though nothing is 100%, the way to feel better exists and comes from us

Is F.’s solution would be a good one for you ?

That is your next step . . .

I wish you a good day !

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