the expatriate's Wednesday: Is the most difficult one the first one ?

This guy is holding a jaca. Tropical fruit you can eat row or cooked. Can do juices as well;

« The most difficult is the first one »

First expatriation

For you as well ?

I think this is true in the majority of the cases

But the majority never really caught my interest ;o)

Generally and for all sorts of feelings / events, a first time is particularly strongly engraved for a long time in our brain and its souvenir is vivid

In an expatriation context for exemple, it is frequent to see families that arrived at the same time form a close circle in terms of identification and friendship

This being said,

It isn’t rare that this first experience is agreable and refreshing ! the novelty, the will to shake a bit old habits, the will to change for multiple individual reasons ;

It also happens that expatriates find that this new relocation is pretty tough to handle, sometimes painful

Because other multiple individual reasons are in the way and make this expatriation a non desirable one.

All depends on what each of us has to go through in their life ….

For ones and the others ;

 Children have grown and ready to fly away, or to prepare a final exam or a key year

Feeling like working again after the children don’t need us that much anymore on a daily basis

You have had a break after many expatriations and now do not feel like moving anymore

Because of health issues

Beacuse o a child would benefit from stopping at 4 langages in order to consolidate them instead of badly using all of them

Feeling like working as you never thought it would be that hard not to

Beacuse now your priority is to be closer to your family at home

You think you’ve given a lot, your turn to go first now

… … …

So ermeges the feeling of settling down and not moving anymore

I am sure you read some of the above statements thinking « OMG yes ! » when some otthers will inspire you a "not at all ! !"

There is nothing right and nothing wrong in those reactions

Our neighbourghs feelings are simply not ours

All those situations are individual representations of a reality

If your current expatriation begins to be difficult you need to talk about it with your partner one day, because this  expatriation is a professional project within a family context

There is always a way to share, think about and imagine new options together

Clarifying your own wills and reasons is a necessary step to go trhough

Write them down, draw them, list them ….

All what you think are your objective and your subjective feelings

Don’t stop yourself, be honest with yourself ; at that step, you only deal with your own feelings, do recognise them

Recognise everything, even what seem totally illogical to you, what you do not understand

Note all what leads you to not want this expatriation anymore

You will share it better with your partner and sharing it is a stepping stone you cannot avoid

 

I wish you a sweet day !

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